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For the neanderthals who didn't get the memo at the dawn of time, No!, women are not "objects," or "playthings," & they don't exist 2 be at a man's beck and call. No one does. This is the problem we're dealing with as a society. A thread on toxic masculinity.
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Generation upon generation of males have been indoctrinated by the fallacy of male dominance - whether they succumbed 2 it or not - promoted by a self-proclaimed hierarchy. That deeply rooted disease must be eradicated at its source - men.
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Growing up under the "JohnWayneification" of this country where male dominance was/is narcissistically glorified at delusional levels, I didn't realize at the time how much boys like me were inundated with debilitating messages of strength, aggression, control, superiority, & fearing "weakness."
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When you're taught from birth 2 be patriarchal, 2 embrace being THE breadwinner, THE provider, THE head of household, THE protector, THE toughest, THE strongest, THE final word, THE man, you can lose all sense of reality while trying to achieve those ends under toxic messaging.
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It took me years to recognize that contamination in myself & it is daily work - doses of mental & spiritual medicine - to keep it from ruling my being.
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That's the problem a lot of men have, especially of a certain age, coming 2 terms not only with what you were taught & exposed 2, but having the wherewithal 2 do the work 2 rid yourself of decades of that radioactive exposure & indulgence.

For me, all of this was complicated by race.
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As a Black man, learning these things while being deemed a second-class citizen only compounded the mental assault of "male dominance" in a society that treated you like a "boy" no matter your age. I've often thought this phenomenon contributes greatly 2 homophobia raging in our communities.
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Like all things involving an oppressor & the oppressed, the voices of those oppressed by patriarchy must be heard, but men, the oppressors in this instance, own the work 2 be the loudest voices calling for & actively working 2 tear down structures of patriarchy, 2 end toxic masculinity.
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Adult men must help destroy toxic masculinity in order for coming generations 2 be empowered 2 do the same until it is no more. That is our charge & our responsibility if WE despise what WE were taught, exposed 2 & feel any sense of paying that revelation forward.
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Young boys/men must be shown a different way 2 think, act, interact, & be, not just with women, but with whoever they encounter so those interactions aren't defined by archaic structures of masculinity, but by their own, genuine definition of their maleness, free from shackles of dominance & control
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Heidi Hafeken
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In response to André Ware.
Not only does André know but has repeatedly stated that men need to step up and fix this not just for women but the men the patriarchy deems 2nd class to themselves. This is deeply appreciated, André. They’re not going to listen to anyone but their own.
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André Ware
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In response to Heidi Hafeken.
ty!, Heidi 🙏🏾🤗 On repeat - Men must do the work to dismantle patriarchy. Period. 👊🏾
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Militant In Remission
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In response to André Ware.
It's Women's Time 2 Shine & 'Alpha Male Types' have a problem w/ that... It doesn't matter, bcuz Women R the majority of Advanced Degree Holders, so they WIIL B the Future Leaders. Looks like The Most High's sending Wo(mb)Men 2 FIX a Man-made Problem.
-Just My 2 Cents
#WomenRise
08:03 PM - Dec 10, 2023
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RealGee
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In response to André Ware.
The craziness is, as thorough is the thread is, it is the beginning of the needed dialog.

Our comfort zones and positions that we choose to agree with will stop a lot of people from this self reflection. Generally, it's the people who most need it.
09:41 AM - Dec 10, 2023
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Mama Ezekiel
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In response to André Ware.
Such a powerful thread.
Thank you!❤️
09:03 AM - Dec 10, 2023
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André Ware
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In response to Mama Ezekiel.
🙏🏾♥️
09:04 AM - Dec 10, 2023
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Lisse (she/her)
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In response to André Ware.
Thanks for sharing your personal journey within this incredible thread 🧵. There’s something to feeling like you’re being preached at, that is also an important aspect. You made this relatable and human. Just by sharing your journey.

Thank you 😊
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André Ware
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In response to Lisse (she/her).
That means a lot, ty! 🙏🏾♥️
12:48 AM - Dec 10, 2023
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Fiona Mary
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In response to André Ware.
Excellent thread Andre. The men in my life, husband, son, son in law, are all on this journey as well. Bravo to you!
09:44 PM - Dec 09, 2023
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André Ware
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In response to Fiona Mary.
A good & necessary journey to be on. Kudos to them & the inspiration of you 🤗🙏🏾♥️
10:15 PM - Dec 09, 2023
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DMA Anderson
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In response to André Ware.
So well-stated and considered, Andre. When and how did the shift into these understanding begin and continue for you?
09:38 PM - Dec 09, 2023
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André Ware
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In response to DMA Anderson.
Thanks for asking. As a rebellious teen, I approached my Mom differently, later showing me how warped my thinking had become towards women generally. Who was this woman thinking she could dominate me?! Once I cooled down & saw my mother's Love & concern in proper perspective, I knew I had work 2 do.
10:11 PM - Dec 09, 2023
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Carla Reid + Chilla
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In response to André Ware.
Excellent thread, André.
It is going to take men speaking up to get this sorted out.
09:17 PM - Dec 09, 2023
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André Ware
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In response to Carla Reid + Chilla.
Amen!
09:31 PM - Dec 09, 2023
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Renee Tang
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In response to André Ware.
Thank you! 🙏🏻❤️
08:58 PM - Dec 09, 2023
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André Ware
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In response to Renee Tang.
🙏🏾♥️
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Debbie Lu
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In response to André Ware.
Incredibly well said! 👏👏👏
08:54 PM - Dec 09, 2023
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André Ware
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In response to Debbie Lu.
🙏🏾♥️
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Nancy C
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In response to André Ware.
Excellent thread
08:23 PM - Dec 09, 2023
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André Ware
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In response to Nancy C.
🙏🏾♥️
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Monica M
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In response to André Ware.
YES! 💯💯💯
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André Ware
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🙏🏾♥️
07:28 PM - Dec 10, 2023
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Thank you for this. I'm in.
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