T. Naught
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pretending you’re ok
is maybe the ultimate maladaptive skill —
learned early & adopted at the level of reflex,
clung to even when you’re the last
& only one fooled, it reasserts itself
as the fake goal of any recovery:
getting back to functional believability
for another mile.

(good morning, y’all)
06:39 AM - Feb 27, 2024
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Bo Dybkær
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Thanks for posting this.

I've only allowed myself to try to unlearn that skill after leaving the job market about a year ago. I can't help wondering how life would have turned out if I had given it up earlier. 🙂

I've never seen it described this precisely before and will be sure to pass it on 👍️
10:49 AM - Feb 27, 2024
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T. Naught
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there’s a time & place i think for “fake it until you make it,” & to some extent the productive world relies on it.

but there’s a dark & damaging side to it, too. especially when you keep up functional appearances as the internal costs spiral.

in any case: glad it resonated, & that you’re healing
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