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The Terminal

When someone you love is going on a trip there’s usually a departure plan.
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You might be the one taking them to the gate or platform. You can say your goodbye in person, in the last moments before they depart, and it’s good.
11:39 AM - Sep 07, 2023
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Or maybe you say your goodbye the night before, and it’s good.

You can also say your goodbye over the phone, or even pass it along through a loved one, and it’s good.
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Sometimes we get to choose how we say goodbye. And sometimes circumstances choose for us. And it can still be good.
11:40 AM - Sep 07, 2023
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I last saw my dad, and gave him a final hug, in March. Although separated by distance, we kept in touch almost daily. Over the past two months his health went downhill quickly, though not unexpectedly.
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I could have flown out again. I debated it. I really did. But for a variety of reasons I made the decision to stay. And once I had made that decision I was at peace with it. My dad was at peace with it.
11:41 AM - Sep 07, 2023
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I’m sharing this for those who may have have had, or will have similar circumstances and choices to make. For those who may feel pressure or guilt about where they’re supposed to be, or what they’re supposed to do when someone they love is dying.
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There’s no right way. There’s no best way. Your love, understanding, and support cannot be bound by distance. They just are.
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I also understand how lucky I was to have had such a good relationship with my dad. To have been in touch so frequently. To know that we had already said all that needed to be said. And to even have had the option to choose.
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My dad passed away two nights ago. I wasn’t there. He loved us all. And we loved him.

And it was good.
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I’m so sorry for your loss.
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