Teresa Howick
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I failed. I fucked up. All the calmness I had re my dad and his abusive ways, all the work I’ve done to be above it, I let myself get pulled in again. Damn it. He came out of the blue with an accusation and I just couldn’t take it anymore. I failed. And yelled with my kids in the house. I’m shaking
03:14 PM - Nov 19, 2023
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SueBee Honey
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In response to Teresa Howick.
1st, I don't believe you failed. A slip is NOT a total fail! We all slip back into our old ways from time to time. It happens.
Step back. Give yourself some Grace. You deserve it. You've worked hard & will get yourself right back on an even keel soon. I'm wrapping you in a huge hug.
03:34 PM - Nov 19, 2023
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Teresa Howick
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In response to SueBee Honey.
I really appreciate that thank you 😊
05:37 PM - Nov 19, 2023
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Debbie Lu
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In response to Teresa Howick.
I’m sorry you’re dealing with that. It always makes me madder at myself than at them when someone pushes just the right button too. Your reaction is not a failure. It is a teachable moment for you to use to build resilience in your kids. Deep breath. Forgive yourself. You got this.
03:20 PM - Nov 19, 2023
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Teresa Howick
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In response to Debbie Lu.
Thank you ❤️
03:22 PM - Nov 19, 2023
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Barbara Edelman
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In response to Teresa Howick.
it’ll be ok. think about yr father the way alcoholics must think about alcohol. the goal is 2 stay sober. sometimes that goal is not met, but tomorrow is day 1 of reaching that goal. if your kids seem upset, tell them that their grandfather makes you very angry & today he hurt your feelings & it’s
03:20 PM - Nov 19, 2023
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Barbara Edelman
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In response to Barbara Edelman.
ok to feel angry about that. kids are family, so no need to keep family secrets away from them. hugs.
03:21 PM - Nov 19, 2023
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Brooksie
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In response to Teresa Howick.
Gosh I was just thinking about how I failed at the same thing about 25 years ago. I don’t have the answer but I do know you need to give yourself a break and kudos for trying to be the best you. Sorry you are feeling this pain.
03:20 PM - Nov 19, 2023
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