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Attention men:

The problem is us. The problem is that we've been reared in and by a society that has taught men (particularly white cishet ones) to center themselves and view everyone else as "too sensitive" to our humor or ways or whatever other gaslighting techniques are handy.
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SoundNFury
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The ironic thing is, the most fragile elements of many of these online discussions are the men who instigate problems in the first place.

We have to let it go. There is no cabal of "hyper-sensitive" women here at Spoutible who are just waiting to take issue with something we say.
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SoundNFury
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Instead, there are women who know their worth, won't stand for bullshit, who back each other up in the face of harassment, and who recognize fake apologies. Again, men, we are the problem. Stop doubling and tripling down when called out. Let your ego go and view it as a chance to learn.
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Dorothy Ruh
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Great thread, and speaking of a chance to learn, I'm a 73/yo woman with questions. What is cishet? Also, I don't get the whole pronoun thing. Can you explain? I like learning.
In response to SoundNFury.
10:49 AM - Jan 14, 2024
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Cheryl Colan
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I see others have explained, but I like to point folks to this nice explanation of why pronouns are important: https://www.glsen.org/acti...
08:28 PM - Jan 14, 2024
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Gwen Klemm
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In response to Dorothy Ruh.
The way I think of it is to compare my feelings when I was a kid seeing women identified by their husbands names, “Mrs.Dan Smith”. I hated that and vowed to use Ms. instead. I think today’s young people are more intune with their feelings about gender, appropriately, and should be encouraged.
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Amy Brooks
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Yes! I remember asking my mom why she signed her checks Mrs. W. F. Cody. I also remember that the account was Mr. and Mrs. W. F. Cody. Her name was nowhere.
12:08 PM - Jan 14, 2024
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Ben Peterson
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In response to Dorothy Ruh.
"cis" is the counterpart to "trans". Meaning, one whose birth sex matches their gender identity. The same terminology as in chemistry 🙂
I'm committed to learning/listening as well, and following lots of queer people is one way to do so
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Happy4uu&u
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A very earnest and kind reply to her enquiry.
07:38 PM - Jan 14, 2024
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Dorothy Ruh
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In response to Ben Peterson.
It is the changing language I was unfamiliar with, not the people. Thanks for the explanation.
03:00 AM - Jan 15, 2024
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Jeannie (she/her)
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In response to Dorothy Ruh.
Hi! Cishet mom to a non-binary kid here. The way my child explained their pronouns to me is that "she" doesn't feel like a word that fits them, and neither does "he." They don't feel particularly masculine or feminine, so gendered pronouns feel wrong to them. So they use "they/them."
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Dorothy Ruh
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In response to Jeannie (she/her).
Thank you. I've wondered about it for a long time and you have explained it beautifully.
03:33 PM - Jan 14, 2024
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SoundNFury
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In response to Dorothy Ruh.
Cishet = cisgender heterosexual
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