Angela
A
I'm not taking sides here but will admit that sometimes it does feel like there's a cool kids clique here and most of us are outsiders.
04:13 PM - Feb 20, 2024
Avatar Avatar Avatar
0
31
42
Mats Eof
A
In response to Angela.
Just decide that _you_ are one of the cool ones and see how it goes.
07:06 PM - Feb 20, 2024
1
5
Kelpie in Spring
A
In response to Mats Eof.
This, right here. It’s all a matter of getting engaged in the conversation.
08:07 PM - Feb 21, 2024
0
2
Josol
A
In response to Angela.
I think we all, at times, feel like an outsider. I never have, or will ever be, one of the cool kids. I have gotten to the point in my life that I don’t care anymore. As long as people are kind and engaging with me, I am fine with that! 💛
05:46 PM - Feb 20, 2024
0
19
Carla Reid + Chilla
A
In response to Angela.
In school I purposely held myself away from almost everyone. I still do. I don't hang with anyone.
I don't hang on social media either.
I don't feel out or in.
I just am.
I reply if I want, I always respond, unless it is someone being an asshat, then I ignore, but that rarely happens.
05:42 PM - Feb 20, 2024
1
16
R H
A
In response to Carla Reid + Chilla.
This!
07:32 PM - Feb 20, 2024
0
2
Richard
A
In response to Angela.
Angela I will take your kind of cool any day at any table.
05:34 PM - Feb 20, 2024
2
11
Angela
A
In response to Richard.
Awww thank you Richard!
05:38 PM - Feb 20, 2024
1
4
Isa-Lee Wolf
A
In response to Richard.
OBVIOUSLY bc I already said @LumpySpaceAngela can sit next to me and CLEARLY we're at the same table😂😂😂
08:56 PM - Feb 20, 2024
1
3
Honey and pepper and roses en déshabillé
A
In response to Angela.
I think crowd dynamics do create this, but also individual perception. At my age, I just talk to whomever I want to; if they respond, neato. And around here, *most* of the time there's at least some sort of response, because at Spoutible even the cool kids aren't inveterate dickbags.
05:21 PM - Feb 20, 2024
0
35
Whoa!
A
In response to Angela.
I can see that. I have felt like an outsider all my life. Even when I have had friends that were "cool kids" I could always feel others giving them the look like, "why are you hanging out with *this guy?" I do think most of those "cool kids" here are pretty open to talking to anyone.
05:15 PM - Feb 20, 2024
1
24
Carla Reid + Chilla
A
In response to Whoa!.
I don't know who the cool are.
I think you are cool.
I thought cool just meant being themselves, not all uptight and mean. Like alright, he's or she's cool.
05:44 PM - Feb 20, 2024
1
10
hmmwrites (Heather's version)
A
In response to Angela.
I've never been a cool kid, so c'mon over and sit with me on the outside looking in. 😁

Seriously, some people have been here long enough for in-jokes, which can have the unintended effect of making others feeling left out. I don't think it's a clique so much...? But hard to navigate, still.
04:59 PM - Feb 20, 2024
0
24
Carol Norris
A
In response to Angela.
I feel that too sometimes. (zero blame or upset! Just noticed.)
04:40 PM - Feb 20, 2024 (Edited)
0
9
G. H. ✅
A
In response to Angela.
I feel that way fairly often
04:30 PM - Feb 20, 2024
0
7
Isa-Lee Wolf
A
In response to Angela.
You can always sit next to me!!

It's way at the edge of the cafeteria or maybe not even in the cafeteria but in the library but still 😂😂😂
04:29 PM - Feb 20, 2024
2
22
Angela
A
In response to Isa-Lee Wolf.
Awwwwwww shucks! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
04:34 PM - Feb 20, 2024
1
6
AprilG Xn+2 = Xn+1 + Xn
A
In response to Isa-Lee Wolf.
Psst, Isa, I don't know how to tell you this but, you're one of the cool kids (to me). ❤️🥰
08:34 PM - Feb 20, 2024
1
7

 

{{ notificationModalContent }} {{ promptModalMessage }}