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Same. I started behind the 8-ball (as a SAHM) and, once I was working and a single mom, I just couldn't get any traction.

I mentioned in a previous spout that my retirement "plan" hinges on being able to claim on my ex's Social Security (and either senior housing or my daughter's good graces).
k hola (she/her) @ktastrophicly
reality is that unless I create some wealth on my own I will never be able to retire. I got too late a start on saving and then too many life events
08:54 PM - Mar 23, 2024
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k hola (she/her)
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In response to Socio-gen.
ugh the sacrifice you made and how big it was. would you have made the same choice had you known how difficult working would be?
09:31 PM - Mar 23, 2024
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In response to k hola (she/her).
I'm glad I was able to have that time with my kids (until the youngest was 4, the oldest 9), but it set me back in so many ways. Add in a health condition that was disabling but wasn't enough for disability and time demands (due to kids) that both restricted my ability to work to low-paying jobs....
09:37 PM - Mar 23, 2024
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In response to Socio-gen.
The biggest regret I have was that I ever believed the lie we're sold that marriage is a woman's security.

I tell young women all the time: fuck that shit. Get an education, get yourself to (and stay in) a place of financial security, no matter what happens to your spouse.
09:44 PM - Mar 23, 2024
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Anton Brakhage
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Yep, money+knowledge to use it effectively is the real security in our world, to the extent that there is any.

It goes against my Leftist sentiments as to how the world should work, but that's how it currently does work. If you have wealth of your own, you have options without depending on others.
09:52 PM - Mar 23, 2024
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I'm not saying one has to choose a career or job that will make you wealthy (ie: choose a business major over humanities), but that you have to think about how you'll survive worst-case scenarios - and not just divorce. My baby sis was widowed at 27. My brother has been laid off multiple times.
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10:51 PM - Mar 23, 2024
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Anton Brakhage
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In response to Socio-gen.
Yes. Though I would argue that you actually do need to be "rich" (or have an amount that would have been considered rich in the past) to really be prepared for such misfortune. Especially in America, land of fucking the poor.
10:53 PM - Mar 23, 2024
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Anton Brakhage
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Quick addendum: I read a little while back that the cut-off to be considered "rich" in the US is now 2.5 million in assets (money, property, etc). More in some areas.
10:56 PM - Mar 23, 2024
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In response to Anton Brakhage.
As a poor person in America, I'll say you're absolutely right. My idea of "wealth" would be having enough income to pay all the bills, fill the gas tank, and be able to go grocery shopping (buying everything I need), and know I could handle a emergency car repair - without checking my bank balance.
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