Michelle Chipato
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My daughter didn’t get a medal in the championships final today in her dance comp. Her two best friends however did. She has won and lost before but this.. this seems to have knocked her out. Apart from telling her how proud I am, that she was a winner to me, how does an 8 year old deal with loss?😩
12:10 PM - Feb 04, 2023
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Nancy Norbeck
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In response to Michelle Chipato.
She needs to know she's still an okay person. That's the fundamental issue. She may be blaming herself or taking it as a sign that she's not as worthy as she thought she was. Showing her where you've failed and been better for it is also important, so she can see the opportunity in the loss.
12:35 PM - Feb 04, 2023
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Nancy Norbeck
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You might also remind her of all the things she's done well in the past, and where she's doing well right now. Make a list so she can see how long it is and keep adding to it. That's a very powerful tool (for anyone of any age!).
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12:36 PM - Feb 04, 2023
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Michelle Chipato
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In response to Nancy Norbeck.
Thank you! This is a brilliant idea of the list. Will do that in the morning before she heads off for her next competition 😬🤞🏾
02:25 PM - Feb 04, 2023
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Nancy Norbeck
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In response to Michelle Chipato.
You're so welcome! It's one of my favorite coaching tools and has so many uses. I hope it helps! 😁
04:10 PM - Feb 04, 2023
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