Pamela B'well
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@cbouzy and the @Spoutible Team:

Can I group-report the now 4 accounts that have popped into my DMs to say “Hi?”

All men, most following only women, zero spouts, zero replies,
zero engagement with my content. [You get the picture.]

How do we get the message across that men who do this are creeps?
12:06 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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Pamela B'well
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I haven’t blocked yet because I’m trying to decide what to do.

I hate it so much and I want it handled on a larger scale.

Soooo disappointed to see it pop up here, where our sense of personal safety matters to this community.
12:16 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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Pamela B'well
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I want there to be better recourse than just blocking. One guy follows 139 women and ONE man. What do you want to bet he’s sent 139 DMs that just say “Hi? 👋🏼”
Put it in a spout, pal.
12:31 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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Pamela B'well
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Women deal with this predatory behavior ALL the damn time. I want it to STOP and I want some endorsement from @cbouzy and @Spoutible .

I also want to see some allyship from men in this community.
01:50 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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NaturesMuse Sunnyside Up
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In response to Pamela B'well.
They're looking for 💵.
12:11 AM - Jul 14, 2023
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Elle Cohen
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In response to Pamela B'well.
Don’t let this become Instagram! I will of course ignore DMs like I do with almost all social media.
03:50 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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Yvette
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In response to Pamela B'well.
I always do exactly what I did on TWITTER. It’s an automatic BLOCK! ☮️💙❤️🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️🙋‍♀️
03:50 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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Alfredo Dominguez
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In response to Pamela B'well.
I am DMing several accounts. I suspect they are males, running fake accounts. If that is the case, I will report the account. On Twitter I have hundreds of unanswered DMs. It is a trade off for having an open account.
03:49 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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Lisa K. "Guardian of Radical Visions"
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In response to Pamela B'well.
I got one if the DMs . Funny, I didn't even think about blocking it reporting because I forgot that we have the power to stop this behavior.

I too would prefer men learn the lesson on a larger scale.
03:13 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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Pamela B'well
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In response to Lisa K. "Guardian of Radical Visions".
THAT is the point I am trying to make. (Getting some very literal responses.)

Recently a man revealed that he only just learned of all the many things women do and don’t do regarding their personal safe. I was surprised he’s just learned it, but it’s important that he is now aware & supportive.
06:13 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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Trump is A Moron
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In response to Pamela B'well.
Put in your bio & they won’t bother you anymore, also block them immediately.
03:11 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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Indivisible
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In response to Pamela B'well.
Thanks for raising this issue..i get these dm's too
WTH
02:59 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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Pamela B'well
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In response to Indivisible.
I sat on it for a few days but I am done with quietly dealing with it.

I want to see some dialog. I want to raise awareness.
06:17 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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Abstracts by Nancy/fbook
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In response to Pamela B'well.
Good question ! I think they like magats, wiil pŕobably never learn. I just block them.
02:50 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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Lucy
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In response to Pamela B'well.
Creeps. It's always the same script. "Hi, I was looking at your profile & saw some interesting stuff. Where are you from? How's the weather where you are?"
🙄
02:27 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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Pamela B'well
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In response to Lucy.
Yes: seemingly innocuous stuff, how could anyone object???
I object.

Nothing about ANYTHING I do here gives any indication that I’m here to date.
06:27 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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Jane I am
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In response to Pamela B'well.
I get them too. I just ignore. I agree with everything you said. FFS! this isn’t Tinder
02:23 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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Ike K
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In response to Pamela B'well.
I think that the only immediate answer is to limit DM’s to one’s followers.
01:17 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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Jen The Muse
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In response to Ike K.
That won't work they will just follow first. If we could restrict DM to mutuals though.......
03:02 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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NetMaven 🐠🐠
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In response to Pamela B'well.
To @cbouzy and @spoutible

Can this feature be added?
a DM autoreply message we can turn on/off in settings?
The message states something like this: 'This user does not accept unsolicited DMs. Your DM is being deleted. If you do it again you will be blocked by this user."

Thank you. 💦
12:33 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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dariasteigman
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In response to Pamela B'well.
Eww.
Meanwhile over on Insta I keep getting followed by random men with locked accounts. Like I'd really follow them to unlock their junk? 🤦‍♀️
12:16 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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dariasteigman
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In response to dariasteigman.
Also reminds me of the guy on Twitter who DM'd me about making friends. Only it was for "Jane,"

ME: "I don't think this was meant for me."
HIM: Oh, sorry about that. Do you want to be friends?

BLOCK!
12:19 PM - Jul 12, 2023 (Edited)
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Jen The Muse
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In response to Pamela B'well.
I ignore them and just block. It's gross. I hate it.
12:07 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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dani
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In response to Jen The Muse.
Snitch them on the timeline :)
12:09 PM - Jul 12, 2023
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Pamela B'well
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In response to Jen The Muse.
I haven’t blocked yet because I’m trying to decide what to do.

I hate it so much and I want it handled on a larger scale.

Soooo disappointed to see it pop up here, where our sense of personal safety matters to this community.
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