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Ok.. so after a couple of things yesterday, I thought it might be a good idea to talk about self image for a second. More specifically, people with a distorted self image.
If you like vulnerable Roxxy, then grab your snack of choice and get comfy. It'll be a long one...
If you like vulnerable Roxxy, then grab your snack of choice and get comfy. It'll be a long one...
07:08 AM - Jan 09, 2024
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What is self image?
So put simply, self image is how we see ourselves.. our intelligence, skills, appearance. But also how we think other people see all those things in us.
So put simply, self image is how we see ourselves.. our intelligence, skills, appearance. But also how we think other people see all those things in us.
07:08 AM - Jan 09, 2024
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A person with a positive self image sees themself as attractive, happy, healthy, intelligent. And believes others see them this way as well.
A person with a negative self image is the opposite. Often, a negative view of self isn't based in reality.
A person with a negative self image is the opposite. Often, a negative view of self isn't based in reality.
07:08 AM - Jan 09, 2024
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It's an accumulation of impressions that we get from ourselves and from others.
Negative self image can cause and be a driving force for many things, including:
Negative self image can cause and be a driving force for many things, including:
07:08 AM - Jan 09, 2024
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(For fun I'll put a heart next to everything I struggle with)
-impairment of occupational, and social functioning
-development of Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) 🖤
-Physical Disfigurement
-Depression 🖤
-Anxiety 🖤
-development of a clinical eating disorder 🖤
-persistent feelings of shame 🖤
-impairment of occupational, and social functioning
-development of Body Dysmorphic Disorder (BDD) 🖤
-Physical Disfigurement
-Depression 🖤
-Anxiety 🖤
-development of a clinical eating disorder 🖤
-persistent feelings of shame 🖤
07:08 AM - Jan 09, 2024
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Let's use Roxxy as an example:
Believe it or not I actually have a pretty negative self image..
I don't actually think I'm overly attractive or smart or funny.. or anything really. I think everyone fixates on the "not feminine" aspects of my body just as much as I do.
Believe it or not I actually have a pretty negative self image..
I don't actually think I'm overly attractive or smart or funny.. or anything really. I think everyone fixates on the "not feminine" aspects of my body just as much as I do.
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But why does Roxxy feel like this?
There's a few things I could pin point..
There's a few things I could pin point..
07:08 AM - Jan 09, 2024
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-I had an ex in high school that told me she only dated me because she knew I was less than her and would be easy to take advantage of.
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-Pre transition I would often be "mistaken" for a girl.. to which my mom would say "I don't get why people think that, you'd be a hideous girl" like that's an ok thing to say to your child, repeatedly, for years.
07:08 AM - Jan 09, 2024
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-The normal girl stuff of comparing myself to models
-struggling with mood disorders that make things that are easy for other people, very difficult for me.. leading me to feel I'm stupid cuz I'm not great at school.
-struggling with mood disorders that make things that are easy for other people, very difficult for me.. leading me to feel I'm stupid cuz I'm not great at school.
07:08 AM - Jan 09, 2024
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All that on top of being trans in the southern part of America.. is a really shitty cocktail for my mental health and self image.
So yeah, a couple big yikes things in that list. Lol
So yeah, a couple big yikes things in that list. Lol
07:09 AM - Jan 09, 2024
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Why do I act slutty and post the pics that I do if I have a terrible self image?
In a way, it's over compensation.
But more importantly, it gets me positive attention and compliments. Which really help me in trying to crack through all the perceptions and distortions I've built up over my life.
In a way, it's over compensation.
But more importantly, it gets me positive attention and compliments. Which really help me in trying to crack through all the perceptions and distortions I've built up over my life.
07:10 AM - Jan 09, 2024
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So I know some of you are shy or don't want to come off creepy or whatever.. but seriously, don't feel bad about liking and sharing my pics. Compliment me in the replies..
tell me I'm hot and perfect and everything. It's what I want, it's why I do it.
tell me I'm hot and perfect and everything. It's what I want, it's why I do it.
07:10 AM - Jan 09, 2024
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Spoutible is probably the only place I could do this safely.. and I'm so glad it exists.
Why did I spend all this time writing this out in notes, just so auto threading could butcher my prestine formatting?
Why did I spend all this time writing this out in notes, just so auto threading could butcher my prestine formatting?
07:11 AM - Jan 09, 2024
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Because it's so very fucking important to be kind to people. The things you say, and in some cases, don't say.. have impacts far beyond what you probably realize.
🖤Roxxy
🖤Roxxy
07:11 AM - Jan 09, 2024
In response to Roxxy Riot.
P.S. Being one's authentic self is always super cool. So you're being super cool rn.
❤️🩷🧡💛💚💙🩵💜🤎🖤🩶🤍
❤️🩷🧡💛💚💙🩵💜🤎🖤🩶🤍
09:45 PM - May 02, 2024
In response to Roxxy Riot.
❤️🩷🧡💛💚💙🩵💜🤎🖤🩶🤍
I think you're great just the way you are, but I absolutely understand negative self-image and struggling with self-esteem.
I think you're great just the way you are, but I absolutely understand negative self-image and struggling with self-esteem.
09:41 PM - May 02, 2024
In response to Roxxy Riot.
Roxy I Will Have Ur 6 until my last Breath ♥️♥️♥️👆️
11:13 AM - Jan 09, 2024
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In response to ManKillah Fruitface.
I only do it cuz I know there's good people here that will protect me from shitheads 🖤
10:03 AM - Jan 09, 2024
In response to Roxxy Riot.
I appreciate your words. My self image is not the best, especially now that I’m hitting that middle aged woman stage and all the stuff it entails. You rock!
09:57 AM - Jan 09, 2024
In response to Roxxy Riot.
Thank you for sharing. You might like this.
From "The Fool's Prayer" (E.R. Sill, 1879):
"The ill-timed truth we might have kept,
Who knows how sharp it pierced and stung?
The word we had not sense to say,
Who knows how grandly it had rung?"
We all blunder, but we MUST keep trying to do better.
From "The Fool's Prayer" (E.R. Sill, 1879):
"The ill-timed truth we might have kept,
Who knows how sharp it pierced and stung?
The word we had not sense to say,
Who knows how grandly it had rung?"
We all blunder, but we MUST keep trying to do better.
08:17 AM - Jan 09, 2024
In response to Roxxy Riot.
Thank you so much for sharing this and being vulnerable. I appreciate you so much. Any time you need an ego boost, you just let me know. Happy to shower you with all the compliments. You deserve to be cheered and supported.
Also, don't tell the others, but you're one of my favorite follows. ❤️
Also, don't tell the others, but you're one of my favorite follows. ❤️
08:04 AM - Jan 09, 2024
In response to Jeannie (she/her).
Lol thanks, will do 🖤
Don't worry.. your secret is safe with me
Don't worry.. your secret is safe with me
08:07 AM - Jan 09, 2024
In response to Roxxy Riot.
Love you Roxxy. I hope your Spoutible experience will help you see how beautiful, smart, talented, and genuine you are.
All of us need to learn to be less judgmental and more welcoming, especially to those who seem “different”. Because underneath, we are all people, with our own vulnerabilities
All of us need to learn to be less judgmental and more welcoming, especially to those who seem “different”. Because underneath, we are all people, with our own vulnerabilities
07:46 AM - Jan 09, 2024
In response to Roxxy Riot.
Thank you for being here and sharing!
Anyone who tells you they haven't struggled with self-image is lying. Not everyone recognizes their struggle, though, but it's evident in their behavior. You are not alone.
You are beautiful, and I love following you. ❤️
Anyone who tells you they haven't struggled with self-image is lying. Not everyone recognizes their struggle, though, but it's evident in their behavior. You are not alone.
You are beautiful, and I love following you. ❤️
07:38 AM - Jan 09, 2024
In response to Roxxy Riot.
Oh Roxxy if I could reach through the phone and hug you I would. You are awesome, brave and very loved here. You have touched on some things many others struggle with (including myself). Keep being your badass, beautiful self! ❤️
07:32 AM - Jan 09, 2024
In response to Roxxy Riot.
I don't have much to say. I'm really bad about saying. But please hear my heart. You are brave. You are beautiful. You are perfect just the way you are. There's no such thing as a hideous child. Only hideous adults.
This is a great thread. Thank you for taking the time and effort to write/post it.
This is a great thread. Thank you for taking the time and effort to write/post it.
07:24 AM - Jan 09, 2024
In response to Roxxy Riot.
This spout was removed because the account associated with it was suspended.
07:24 AM - Jan 09, 2024
