Isa-Lee Wolf
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I find the pressure on people to "forgive" their abusers gross.

And it seems it's always about the people abused "getting over it," and never the abusers truly taking steps to attempt to atone without expecting it to be transactional.
08:39 AM - Jan 19, 2024
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DB Gives
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In response to Isa-Lee Wolf.
I understand what you're saying. I take a different approach: I refuse to let another person's mis-treatment of me become a pathology in my body, so I let it go. It doesn't mean that person gets to be in my life. Some PEOPLE are a pathology and need to be excised for one's one well-being.
04:06 PM - Jan 19, 2024
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Woke/Saying NO to polls
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In response to Isa-Lee Wolf.
I agree.
04:04 PM - Jan 19, 2024
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Just Curious About Stuff
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In response to Isa-Lee Wolf.
Nope

They knew what they were doing and had no problem inflicting pain and anguish

Fuck this shit that I should feel compassion, understanding, or forgiveness towards my abuser

I’ve forgiven myself, but that’s as far as it’ll ever go
03:45 PM - Jan 19, 2024 (Edited)
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Isa-Lee Wolf
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In response to Just Curious About Stuff.
I totally understand this and agree that's your right.
03:52 PM - Jan 19, 2024
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Marie Jamison
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In response to Isa-Lee Wolf.
I believe it's proper to banish relatives/friends/work associates from your personal life for deliberate cruelty. I understand forgiveness for your own emotional well being; but all I have for the abusers is prayers from a distance.
03:36 PM - Jan 19, 2024
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Isa-Lee Wolf
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In response to Marie Jamison.
Even incidental cruelty, I think, especially when repeated and not remedied.

I agree with that, I think no one is required to interact with people who hurt them.
03:38 PM - Jan 19, 2024
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Jacqueline Marquez
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In response to Isa-Lee Wolf.
So true🥺😔
09:17 AM - Jan 19, 2024
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Angela
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In response to Isa-Lee Wolf.
Thank you. I'm only finding real peace now that my abuser is dead.
09:01 AM - Jan 19, 2024
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Isa-Lee Wolf
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In response to Angela.
I'm sorry and I'm glad 💙💙💙

The guilt is always only aimed at survivors.
09:05 AM - Jan 19, 2024
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JayTuma1 (She/Her)
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In response to Isa-Lee Wolf.
I was sexually abused by a family member. I will never forgive him. I only have to see him at funerals, which is rare cause both our parents are dead. We have no other siblings, that I know about anyway.
08:55 AM - Jan 19, 2024
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Isa-Lee Wolf
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In response to JayTuma1 (She/Her).
I'm so sorry, that is a terrible situation and I'm also sorry he did that to you.

Why should you have to?
08:59 AM - Jan 19, 2024
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